My name’s Penny, I work in the NHS as a clinical support worker. My daughter is working and waiting to go to university. When my daughter was 14/15 in the middle of high school we were experiencing daily conflict. It was fraught, nothing was ever getting resolved. We were just having the same or similar fights daily. We were certainly not making any compromises.
We had a very close relationship before, as I was mainly a single parent, so I did the majority of all the parenting. It was when my daughter was into her teens when we were both trying to stand our ground – me as a parent and Iona as a growing teenager.
I didn’t look forward to coming home, because I didn’t know what we would be fighting about next. It was clear to me that whatever it was I was trying to do wasn’t working. I wasn’t coping when I asked for help – I was having panic attacks and calling into work.
Without Amber mediation, the support would have been whatever the social services had to offer. I would have just had to go along with that. It feel strange having to have a mediator between me and my daughter but it was what we needed at the time. It was a relief to be honest with you. It was a relief that we were getting help.
This is an extract from Scottish Centre for Conflict Resolution’s film Nurturing Relationships